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Day 3: Carbs vs. Calories

Morning weight: 190.8 lbs. 

Daily feeling score: 7.0

Calories: 1782    Carbs: 65

Workout: None

Preparation is key for meeting almost any goal. Before I go out to dinner I decide and research what I will have before we leave the house. Of course I have a good idea of what has low carbs – at least I thought. Picking a place to have dinner with the family is a bit of a challenge. Especially when you don’t pick the place. We were headed to Luby’s. I knew that liver and onions should be a good choice. I quickly googled it on my iPhone for the nutritional numbers we care about and it all looked well. No more than 12 carbs!  But when I got home. Doh!

Assumed wrong!

A double check on my favorite nutritional website:, made me cry a bit. Apparently Luby’s mixes the liver and onion with syrup sprinkled with sugar. The carb count is 50g!? I gain composure and remind myself I got the Luan plate which is half the serving size. I also didn’t eat too many of grilled onions. The dinner is still a touch over 20 carbs. We will see what that does to us tomorrow with the weight.

What did I learn? Be more specific on what I look up on the websites. If there is a restaurant food they probably have nutritional information somewhere on the internet. Take the time to find it. Each place has their own secret recipes that may include tons of sugar or bread mixed in. Other restaurants that served liver and onions only had 3-7 g of carbs.


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It’s already Day 2

Morning weight: 191.8 lbs.

Daily feeling score: 7.2

Calories: 1747    Carbs: 44.6

Workout: None

Don't stop

Don’t stop

Some small cravings today. I wanted to snack on some popcorn or cashews after work and that would have been my normal routine. Kicking that bad habit for a while should adjust my body’s expectations.   The result- even less cravings later on.  I liked that I dropped a pound already. Caution! We have to remember that even if we go up and down in our weight a little as long as the trend is down with our weight that’s the small objective. This is what it’s all about. Each day dropping a little is better than the wild swings in weight. Control and knowledge about what spikes up the weight are keys.  Understanding what we can eat and when. Of course, people are all different when it comes to our weight. We won’t know unless we monitor and track. Keep it up!

I gave my day a 7.2. I did feel a little sluggish. This may have been the lack of sleep or thoughts of the job. I don’t attribute anything to the 44.6 carbs.

Smile Often!





Day 1: Carbs vs. Calories

Morning weight: 192.8 lbs.girlboxer

Daily feeling score: 7.4

Calories: 1905    Carbs: 62.6

Workout: Chest, hanging abs –30 minutes total


We now have data. I can start the graphs and charts soon. You may notice that I didn’t starve myself today. Actually, I ate well. I was not hungry. Even went out to lunch at Eatzi’s with an old friend. One mistake I made was drinking a breve latte from Starbucks. For the life of me I didn’t know a Grande breve latte had 20 carbs in it. I would have passed on if that were the case. But this is exactly why we want to do this!

How do I feel? Normal. 7.4 is not a bad score. I usually feel like that on average days.

By the way, bread and all of its family is off limits. Because wheat is very, very high in carbs. I won’t have any during this fight. Wheat Belly is one of my favorite books ( A discussion for later on).


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Carbs vs Calories


Tough fighters

Tough fighters

The gloves are on. The opponents are warmed up. Get r…e….a…d…y to… R U M B L E! The fight of the decade begins!….. Ok… maybe this isn’t about boxing. But it’s a match that’s important. The fight is Carbohydrates versus Calories. This is something I’ve wanted to prove for a very long time. The misconception is that calorie watching and limiting will drive a person’s weight down. You’ve heard it before. If I keep my calories below 2000 and I burn 500 then the math works out where a person will lose about a half a pound. No matter what side you’re on, in the end it won’t matter. I intend to provide solid proof that the better way is to watch and limit your carbohydrates. I will track, monitor and analyze the two fighters to see which one is the better fighter. I will journal each day and post it for all to see.



  1. Once a day One person- me will do a morning weigh-in.
    1. Why is this important? This will help determine.
    2. Provide daily feedback on what foods are causing spikes or the best weight loss.
    3. Motivates me to cut out more carbs.
  2. I will keep track of how many calories I take in and naturally how many carbs I take in. In addition I will keep track of WHEN I eat the calories/carbs.
    1. Why is this important? This is important because the body’s blood sugar level is affected by too many carbs consumed in a short period of time. My idea is to eat more than enough calories for an average adult male.
    2. The carbs however will be kept under a certain amount. Hint: No more than 12 carbs in an hour.
  3. I will also provide a score at the end of the day of how I feel. It will be on a scale of 1-10.
    1. Why is this important? It matters that the action of losing weight doesn’t cause mental or physical issues. I should feel better by losing weight and doing it the right way. That is the true test of any “diet”.
    2. The score is not one to measure if negative events happen such as the Dallas Cowboys or Rangers losing a game.
  4. Track the workouts. The physical activity will have some bearing on burning calories/carbs. I will only let you know of what workout I do and for how long. Note** I hate cardio workouts so it will probably be a bunch of free weight workouts that maybe burn a couple hundred calories.
    1. Why is this important? I want to prove that you don’t have to put in insane workouts to drop weight.
    2. There are a lot of racers, marathoners and pretty good athletes that are overweight. They run, bike, swim or whatever and are snug in their jeans!

Calories is the strong veteran. Carbohydrates is the sleek, new comer. Let’s find out which one wins.



Smile Often!

How often do you find yourself at some social get together and after 10



or 20 minutes you’re trying to find some excuse to leave. The invite came three weeks ago and you waited until the last possible moment to get ready and eventually show up. You really didn’t know if you wanted to go in the first place. But you’re here now! What to do? What to do?

Your indecision and wondering puts you in a negative light. Seriously are you that important where when you grace people with your presence they get excited.

5 Steps to fight the ambivalence in your life:
1) Make sure you know your social calendar. If you know you have a free night then accept the invite and go!
2) When you make the commitment then GO! Make it something you are 100% committed to.
3) Invite others to go
4) Stay for at least an hour or more!
5) Make it a point to talk to as many people as you can. You can ask questions can’t you?

Stand up … make a commitment… don’t be so flaky!

If we didn’t worry what other people thought, what could we do?…

Would you ask out that cute girl at the bank that gives you a sexy smile?  Would we ask our boss for a 15% raise when you just got one six months ago? Would you start up a business, an online dating site, or go back to school with people half your age?

How about engage in an aggressive dialogue at your bible study? Would you attend Toastmasters and speak in front of audiences?…

Dance on the dance floor with your husband or wife? Take dance lessons at the very least?

What would you do if what other people thought about what you did or said didn’t matter? What could you do—what would you do?

Plums are very good for us

Try this healthy fruit in the juicer

Believe it or not plums are good for the eyes..because they can prevent macular degeneration and some infections of the eye. Eating plums will assist you in retaining sharp-eye sight. And…..

are rich in antioxidants. They provide protection from superoxide anion radical (yes, these are bad),

Plum juice is effective in preventing and reducing human influenza A.

Plums have cleansing agents that keep the blood pure this in turn may protect the heart.
plums assist in the absorption of iron.
They taste sooo good too.. How can we get more?
Add them as a juicing ingredient, chopped up in your morning cereal, lunch salad or yogurt snack. Some have suggested adding them to your brown rice? hmmm…
The phytonutrients in the plum are called neochlorogenic and chlorogenic acid. They are also in the prune (a dryed out plum). Phenols, and their function as antioxidants has been abundantly researched and documented.
They also have vitamins C, A (in the form of beta-carotene), vitamin B2, dietary fiber and potassium.

The is just a quick addendum to the Chronic Knot in the Shoulder blades issue.  The long, aggravating, dull pain that happens when a tight muscle forms between the spine and shoulder blade. The exact muscle is either the trapezius or rhomboids.

Sometimes this can be so painful and tight that it pulls the ribs upwards making you feel as if you can’t breath in deep without feeling it. Most of the time it’s just slightly painful but very annoying.

If you missed it read part 1. There is definitely a solution. 

I wanted to add this post because I want to save you lots of time and money. I don’t want you going on this futile journey of searching for relief for your muscle knot. This is the experience I’ve had and maybe it will help you avoid advice, that while well-meaning, is innocuous. 

Remember, I’ve seen lots of different people that have told me many different ways to get rid of the knot and believe me, I have tried many of their remedies and techniques with minimal results and definitely without success. 

Many Massage therapists have claimed that stretching the chest muscles will miraculously help get rid of the the knot located on my upper back. “It will help relieve the pressure from the back.” Not in my case. 

The entire science of “Trigger points” and rubbing them out as prescribed in the book, The Trigger Point Therapy Workbook (which I bought), and other books like this do not work either.  Myofascial trigger points (small contraction knots) are real…I think…I’ve never seen one but a lot of people “get” them and they can be rubbed out. This might work for some things such as headaches, joint issues, stress or soreness but not for your knot. 

Keeping your head up and not slouching had no effect either. I had a friend of mine tell me everytime I seemed to pull up on my shoulders. I would get the signal and then let them down and relax them. This went on for weeks with no benefit. I would also “sit up straight” at my desk and when watching TV, or having a meal. 

Self-adjusting or “Popping” your back might feel good and relieve the pain slightly but doesn’t do anything for the knot. I always thought… If I can just pop my back the right way, then my back would fall in place and the knot would be gone. Nope not that either.

Chiropractors couldn’t do anything. They x-rayed me and professionally “adjusted” me with no success. They all said they could help me. Their specialty was “sports” injuries and put me through “heck” with everything they tried. There was a chiropractor that put little “shock pads” all around my back. This would send little electrical currents to all the muscles that the pad was on. This was interesting but didn’t do anything. I think it even made it worse. Oh yea…One even used a technique where she would push my feet together and then out  for 100 times to do energy work. How was that supposed to help my knot? Maybe a placebo affect that she thought I would fall for?

Accupuncture did not work either. I told people that I just want to “dig a knife” in that knot. It would throb with pain because of the tightness. Well why not stick needles in it? So I did. This did nothing–especially when they wanted to stick them in my ankles. NO WAY!

Warm rags, heating pads, Icy Hot, Ice etc…”It’s a muscle tear, rub it out” …I’ve used all of these. They might feel good, but do not work. 

Advil, Tylenol or Asprin Therpy all are ineffective. Don’t kill your liver doing this. 

There’s even those that say it’s a heart problem… Now this is an extreme diagnosis that is just wrong. 

Try my advice and technique and be done with it.  SOLUTION.

Again don’t kill yourself. Have a painfree day, and rest of your life (at least from that darned knot!)

Smile Often!

Create what you want

Create what you want

Paul had it. “This stuff about thinking good thoughts, driving by big houses and hoping for more just doesn’t work!” he cried out to his girlfriend Susan. Paul had read it all, well almost, from Rich Dad, Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki, Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, to See You at the Top by Zig Ziglar. Other books by Anthony Robbins, John Maxwell, Jack Welch and a host of other authors filled his bookshelf. “I’m making these guys rich!”

Too many people are in Paul’s shoes. They’ve tried and tried and finally given up. It may have been two, five or ten years later but they’re frustrated and unmotivated now.

If you feel this way about self-motivation and striving for success then you’re not alone. Many, many people feel the same way. Keep reading… don’t give up on me yet.


Brian Tracy wrote a profound message in one of his bestselling book Goals. That message was “You become what you think about, most of the time.” This is an interpretation one of the universal laws—The Law of Attraction. The LOA pulls towards you an undeniable creation of your thoughts. Your thinking sculpts what you become. Are you confident or ambivalent? Do you shape yourself into a motivated, energetic person or is it an angry, cynical person? This creative process is ultimately YOUR responsibility. Sending mixed signals into the universe is a mistake. You must be clear and concise on what you ask for. You can become that what you desire to be.

How do you do that?

It takes more than just reading about success. You have to think, ask, seek and finally become. Motivational books are filled with this almost cliché thought process of “thinking it to have it”. However, most of these books you read have at least one element of truth. That truth is you are placed into the right pattern to read and hear that way of thinking.

Just like food and water is necessary everyday for the body, so is filling your mind every single day with these types of attraction thoughts. You just have to have more refills to see the outcomes of this type of thinking. It’s so easy for one day to fall to the next day without any LOA thoughts—eventually days become weeks and weeks turn into months and so on. Finally, you shrug and say that this thinking is “useless” and “doesn’t work”. You must strive to maintain this belief. You must KNOW it.


Surround yourself with encouragement and inspiration. Keep positive notes, reminders and emails that motivate you to continue these grand thoughts. Subscribe to blogs that share success stories and provide tips for creating “desired outcomes”. It’s easy to quit in the middle and be content on what you have.


This leads to a lot of your frustration. If you see someone who is more successful than you, and has half your ability, so what! You’re probably way ahead financially than most of the people you know. But this won’t matter to you because it’s in our blood to compare ourselves. Everything is relative. We are all unique.

We do not get to certain places in our lives at the same age. You may be 60 years old before you get your first business. Or you might be 20 years old by the time you get your MBA. Who cares!


Turn off the TV, and focus on your thoughts. Eliminate the distractions in your life that take you off course of your success goal. What is it you’re trying to attract? If you’re fighting for these thoughts with the TV then you’re not really focused. I use TV as one of the distracter examples, there are many others. You know what they are. There is a time and place for it. Just watch it on your time. Don’t keep it on in the background.

Those articles that tell you how HARD it is to succeed or “risky” businesses, that occasionally show up on Yahoo or MSN’s front page should NOT be read. Get out of the habit of reading negative articles. You can waste a lot of time and become de-motivated in a hurry. Remember the press is full of negativity. That’s what sells news. Don’t you become a “feeder” of negativity!

Hide or “defriend” your friends on Facebook or MySpace that are continuous complainers or post disparaging comments. You don’t need to see that. I know, I know… Just like moths love the light; we love the drama.


Momentum is on your side. This concept is tried and true. It’s demonstrated by how simple, small raindrops transform into a flood with the power of moving building off of their steel foundations and the couple of dollars that can, over time, exponentially grow into over a million dollars.
If you can get other people, especially positive, successful minded people to help you in your drive for success then your progress is amplified.

Have your significant other post inspirational notes on your mirror; send you success email or links to stories of people that have “made” it. Maybe it’s not about a lot of money, or a great career. Maybe it’s about putting yourself in a position to help fund a mission trip or build a university.


We’ve had the experience of reading a profound page or chapter in a particular book and feel energized deep within our core. Finally, with a sigh, we’ve read something that makes sense! Then two days later we flat-line… again!
You cannot give up. You have to keep reminding yourself of the amount of work it takes. Keep your mind fresh. Exercise, and focus on manifesting what you think about most of the time.

Keep asking, thanking and pursuing your goals.

You also have the knowledge that the journey of “getting there” is part of the fantastic experience.

Smile often!

If you’re usually the type of person that holds yourself back from doing a lot of things or talk yourself out of most activities, you’re probably too much of a thinker.

Should I go back to school? Should I move?

Should I go back to school? Should I move?

Try the “ready, fire aim” approach. Take Action right away without predicting all the outcomes. Most decisions don’t take days, weeks or months of analyzing.

Questions in your mind such as, “Should I ask her out for Friday?” or “I would like to talk to my boss about getting a 10% raise.” are really easy to take action on once you get out of the habit thinking about it.

Break out of that type of thinking! It takes just a little practice.

Here are 7 ways to do that…

  1. Be radical. Get in the habit of doing things outside the box. Start off with an easy exercise. Take a quick photograph of yourself and put it on Get people to rate the photo. You have an opportunity to rate other people’s pics too. After you get a certain rating then dress yourself up and style your hair. Take and post that picture. See if your action pushes up your rating. It’s fun and it’ll get you to do something you’re a little shy about. **I don’t work for them 😉

  3. Be involved. Toastmasters will get you doing something that most people have a tremendous fear of—speaking in public. Don’t think… Just join. You will meet people and learn a lot. Once you can get outside of your comfort level you’ll gain tremendous confidence and the avalanche effect of other things you can do will be tremendous.

  5. Be radical. Post a video on Make sure it shows you. See how many people watch it. Better yet, see how many people comment on it. Who knows maybe millions of people will watch it and you’ll be a celebrity.

  7. Be romantic. When you have date night with your special other, don’t just go to a quiet dinner and a movie. Go dancing and really dance. Dance a lot. If you normally dance then find something else.
  8. Be adventurous. Go to a comedy club that requires audience participation. Make sure they use your material when they ask for content. These are usually comedy clubs that do ad lib stuff. Go to a murder mystery dinner that includes the guests as some of the actors and actresses.

  10. Be embarrassed. This may be very difficult for you because we try so hard not to put ourselves in this type of situation. But try this. When you’re at a clothing store and you are about to buy something find a flaw and ask for a discount on it. Most clothes have a flaw.  Or the next time you’re at the gym, restaurant or store and there’s a person you’re attracted to ask them out! This will force you to act outside yourself. Don’t think about the outcomes or what people are thinking about you. Oh, and if you already do this kind of stuff because that’s just the way you are then you probably should read a different post.

  12. Be free. Once you’re comfortable with this new way of thinking you’ll open the doors to so many other opportunities. It’s normally how we think that keeps us chained to the same habits.

There is so much to explore and experience in this world if we don’t hold ourselves back. Most of the time it just takes small steps to overcome our “hold-back” thinking. You’ve heard it before…your mind can be your best friend or your worst enemy.

“You’ll seldom experience regret for anything that you’ve done. It is what you haven’t done that will torment you.” Wayne Dyer

Once you’ve done some of these activities send me the links like to or and I’ll vote for you or rank you.

Smile Often!